चिडिया और चुरुगन

हरिवंश राय बच्चन यांची पालक म्हणून किंवा पाल्य म्हणून, वाचण्यासारखी व आनंद घेण्यासारखी अप्रतिम कविता.


छोड़ घोंसला बाहर आया‚
देखी डालें‚ देखे पात‚
और सुनी जो पत्ते हिलमिल‚
करते हैं आपस में बात;
माँँ‚ क्या मुझको उड़ना आया?
“नहीं चुरूगन‚ तू भरमाया”

डाली से डाली पर पहँुचा‚
देखी कलियाँ‚ देखे फूल‚
ऊपर उठ कर फुनगी जानी‚
नीचे झुक कर जाना मूल;
माँँ‚ क्या मुझको उड़ना आया?
“नहीं चुरूगन तू भरमाया”

कच्चे–पक्के फल पहचाने‚
खाए और गिराए काट‚
खाने–गाने के सब साथी‚
देख रहे हैं मेरी बाट;
माँँ‚ क्या मुझको उड़ना आया?
“नहीं चुरूगन तू भरमाया”

उस तरु से इस तरु पर आता‚
जाता हूं धरती की ओर‚
दाना कोई कहीं पड़ा हो
चुन लाता हूं ठोक–ठठोर;
माँँ‚ क्या मुझको उड़ना आया?
“नहीं चुरूगन तू भरमाया”

मैं नीले अज्ञात गगन की
सुनता हू अनिवार पुकार
कोई अंदर से कहता है
उड़ जा‚ उड़ता जा पर मार;
माँँ‚ क्या मुझको उड़ना आया?

“आज सफल हैं तेरे डैने
आज सफल है तेरी काया”

~ हरिवंश राय बच्चन

कशी वाढवावी मुलांची बुध्दिमत्ता?

दोघी सासवा – सुना,
दोघी माय – लेकी,
दोघी नंदा, भावजा,

तीन वडे,
वाटणी का पडे?

अगदी एकदोन आठवड्यांपूर्वी आईने आम्हाला हे कोडं घातलं. मुलांचे संगोपन हा विषय सांगताना माझ्या आईचा एक विशेष प्रयत्न नेहमी आठवणीत असतो तो म्हणजे हा. Critical Thinking Ability वाढविण्याचा. तिला माझ्या शाळेचा अभ्यास नाही घेता यायचा, परंतु ते तिचं काम नव्हतंच. परंतु तिने नेमकं ते केलं जे शाळेतून मला मिळालं नसतं.

आईनी बुद्धीला धार लावली आणि मोकळा श्वास घेवू दिला,
अभ्यासाच्या ताणामुळे वडिलांना आग्रह करून मला वेगळ्या शाळेत घातलं,
मला प्रेरित केलं, अभ्यासाचा विट येवू दिला नाही,
अगदी लहान असतानापासून कल्पनेच्या जगात खेळ रचू दिले,

तथ्य बदलतात. त्यांचा अभ्यास विद्यार्थ्याला तितका कामात येत नाही जेवढा विचारक्षमतेचा येतो. कुठल्याही क्षेत्रात यशस्वी होण्याची कुवत निर्माण होते.

शाळा आणि अभ्यास आणि शिक्षणाच्या दिखावेबाज इव्हेंट्स मूळे, महत्वाच्या सहजपणे शक्य असणाऱ्या परिणामकारक गोष्टी सुटून जात आहेत. Critikal thinking, reading, imagination, creativity,…. (मुलांसाठी याचे कोर्सेस कुठे होतात हे विचारू नका. ही तुम्ही करायची गोष्ट आहे.)

आणखी काय लिहू? भरपूर बोलायचं तुमच्याशी. भेटून बोलुयात.

(मुलांचे संगोपन या विषयावर अधिक जाणून घ्यायचे असेल तर या वेबसाईट ला follow करा. )

Changing culture through language.

Changing culture through language is more about ‘choice of words and strength of character’, than the dialect.

Language is more about ‘choice of words and strength of character’, than the dialect.

It was a casual discussion over ‘afternoon’ tea in ‘Faculty Room’ @Disha Edupoint, which gradually lead to realization of how our language affects our family, organisation, students, colleagues and most importantly, ourselves. I would like to start with the story/incident Rakesh, my colleague shared(on WhatsApp Group) with all of us by EOD. It goes like this, Two children climb over a tree while playing in the park. Their mothers rush to the place while a sudden breeze causes the tree branches to rustle. One of the women, cries out loud to her son, “Hey, you may fall down!”. While other woman chose to stay calm and said loudly to her son, ” Hold the branch firmly. Stay strong and be careful.”. The story continues with one of the children falling down and narrator trying to make a point… I will end the story right here. Because the point I want to make (and my belief) here will not change if the outcome is altered with other child or both of them falling down.

Is it just about the language or is it about the culture? ( We mistake our rituals for the culture? I am not talking about rituals). Our culture finds its way into how we talk and grows its roots stronger and deeper. The ones who realise this makes use of it to sell more and grow rich. Very few try it to change the ‘culture’ for collective good. But if we together make a conscious effort to uplift the standards of our thinking, we might boost our chance of better and brighter tomorrow. (Don’t rush to visualise overrated and dramatised outcomes.)

Let’s introspect our language and our ‘true culture’ by re-living some of our past experiences… and thinking, what amendments can we make if similar things happen again…

1) In the face of some unfortunate incident, what do we think first? We find someone to blame! Many a times, strangely, the one who suffers is at the receiving end of instant criticism. A person fails in business or any new venture. We rush to prove how we knew it from the start and try to convince how he shouldn’t have tried it in first place.

Why do certain linguistic/religious communities fail in business? Because, their culture and language have made them so.

We are culturally full of shit, naturally good at counting the faults and pathetically suck at nurturing good things. You will agree if you observe with keen ears and eyes. But if you observe long enough, you will realise how this language one hears, alters his culture. The young turk, who used to advocate the culture of possibilities, fall prey to the culture of ‘suffocation by loud exhibition of how caring we are’.

Let’s learn to forgive. Let’s learn to utter encouraging words. Let’s learn to accept that failures with smile. Let’s learn taking second, third, fourth…..chance, equipped with prior learnings.

2) How do we handle our success or failure? Do we accomodate our competitors in our celebration of victory? Do we appreciate others overcoming our own defeat? Do we realise that undermining fellow colleagues is not a way to raising ourselves?

Honest and clear exchange of ideas/views without breaking the communication channel is key to ‘winning culture’ at home and at office. Let’s be open to radical ideas. Let’s be open to positive criticism. Let’s help others win. Because, when your team rises, you (or your fellow) may rise even higher. Win-win for all.

Let’s learn to play non-zero sum game !

3) How can we stop discrimination based on the occupation? We need to realise, we need someone to do that job too which we consider lowest. Instead of judging the occupation and one who is doing it, how can we improve the working conditions and dignity in it? That is the question we need to ask and answer. Here, let me share an image I came across few days back.

Study and score good or else we will send you to keep herds !(अभ्यास कर. नापास झालास तर ढोरं राखाले जा.) This is the typical threat given to school going children in our neighborhood. Is keeping the herd so low of a livelihood? Now I find, even jobless guys are not ready to keep the herd causing decline in number of cows, buffaloes and resulting in downsizing of local milk industry.

Language and culture grows together. It can either help us or slap us hard. Depends on how careful we are when it is shaping up.

I can go on adding examples, but I think they are not important now. I trust your thinking and reasoning ability. The question is how can we develope our language and vocabulary (irrespective of our dilect), which will shape winning culture around us.

I am trying, not make any conclusive remark. The ball is in court of thoughtful readers. (Comment your views to push the thought forward and Share to more readers if you can connect.)

Thumb rules of Good Parenting

(The following article contains bullet points from Parenting Seminar I delivered at couple of schools. Hope it will be helpful.)

Dear Parents,

• Of all the organizations we are part of, the most underestimated and neglected organization is our family. We all need to find a way out to utilize most of the potential of this team called family. We need to take time to sit together regularly, set goals and help each other out to achieve more individually as well as a team.

• The youngest members of this team, children, are the ones ‘our beloved organization’ need to invest most of our efforts and time in. To raise a child to his/her full potential is the best way to contribute to the nation and the world.

Be involved in your childs life. Take out time to talk, read and play with them.

• To raise a child properly, parents must shape themselves up. Development of a child and parent goes hand in hand. (Take time to read and learn.)

• The way we behave with our children or to other in their presence is the thing which impacts their personalities most. What we do matters. We need to stop our abrupt and agitated responses. Our responses should be calculated ones to have desired effects and learning for the child.

• Love your child. But love doesn’t mean lowered expectations or gifts. We often replace our love for child with the facilities, material possessions etc. Motivate them to achieve more without pressurizing.

• Be involved in your childs life. Take out time to talk, read and play with them. Give your undivided attention to them for some fixed time daily. Don’t do their work, but be there to support and guide them.

• Pay close attention to your childs special needs if any. Many a times, underperformance is caused by some learning disability. Take professional help in these cases.

• Results are like the Pathological Results. It tells us where the improvement is needed. Don’t use the results to only shout at your child. Results depend on way of evaluation too. (Don’t run after artificially perfected results only to satisfy you.) It’s okay to get less percentage, just ensure your child is learning. Can understand what he/she heard or read in lines and further, between the lines.

• We should set and follow the rules of behavior. Involve your child in making policies on use of TV, mobile etc. Don’t micromanage your child and his behavior, but establish broad guidelines.

• Nurture you child. Create an environment which helps him/her to be sensible person of independent thoughts. Remember, independence and voicing opinions is not disobedience. These are virtues, not vices.

• Develop your child to be patient, to listen to others, to help others and to coexist. Make him/her understand importance of ecology, water, soil conservation.

• Be consistent with your efforts as parent.

• Avoid harsh disciples. Never hit your child.

• Explain your rules and decisions, in age appropriate manner. Satisfy their queries.

• Treat your child with respect. It’s equally important to treating our elders respectfully.